Since I was born in the 90’s I grew up with the the classic (but fucking terrifying) PSA “don’t you put in in your mouth” and obviously because of the rebellion that was deeply rooted into my queer little brown body I didn’t do a good job listening to the government and ended up putting lots of things in my mouth. That’s right pals, we are talking about Bj’s and all their sloppy glory!
Now I love giving blowjobs and I mean it, literally the blue sex bracelet was my favourite for a reason even if the black and clear with glitter matched my aesthetic and personality more. For the people who don’t know what sex bracelets are they were these little jelly bracelets that everyone use to wear in my high school and different colours meant different sex acts you would preform when someone would break it. Even now that I’m older, I traded those jelly bracelets for silicone cock rings and that messy fringe scene kid for a balayage babe but I absolutely still love participating in, talking and teaching about the art of sucking cock.
Before I continue talking about the fun stuff we need to acknowledge some things!
- You can give a blowjob to so many things! A flesh cock, a silicone cock, a clit – get creative!
- Blowjobs are not just for cis dudes given by cis ladies (sorry not sorry). Anyone can give anyone a blowjob if they want one and that’s fucking incredible
- Giving blowjobs can be scary, new or exciting and any feelings you feel are valid.
- Trauma is so real so have conversations and know your boundaries. You know what’s best for you so talk about it with your partner before putting anything inside of your body.
- Communication & consent, fuck I can’t say this enough.
Oof, now that we touched on those things let’s move on!
- Bj’s can be so much fun with the right person. It can either be an act of dominance and control (like doing whatever you want to do to them while they’re tied up) or it can be an act of foreplay (scene one of the whole very off-Broadway show that is my sex life), and it can be submission (getting face fucked and used)! I love all of these things with very different partners, and once we communicate what works best for both of us we can continue with the breaking of the bracelet!
- Putting a dick in your mouth that has the ability to ejaculate can also be nerve wracking since most of us own (or at least read) the book “oh, they just came in my mouth with no warning and other classic horror stories” or my favourite “Nancy drew and the mystery of why the fuck did you cum in my eye.” I think talking about a game plan before or during on what you want to do with cum can be pretty important and actually really sexy!
- Hands and mouths go together like peanut butter and jelly, peanut butter and chocolate, peanut butter and bacon. Literally hands are peanut butter and they go well with most sex acts. Wanna stick stuff in a butt? Hands! Wanna go down on a vulva? Hands! Wanna give a great blowjob? Hands! Hands make things so much more fun, and sometimes I feel like I don’t have enough to do all the things I want to do. Some fun things to do with hands is touch your partner, Rubbing your hands and fingers up their chest and down their legs, using your hands to press on their perineum and maybe even some light ball touching are some nice things to do with your hands while going down on your pal!
I can literally keep talking about this forever but this just the first of many blowjob conversations I can’t wait to talk about with all of you! As always, if you have any questions, concerns or want to ask about going down you can ask them here or just leave a comment!